Sheila Dixit, Chief Minister of Delhi, feels that a woman driving home in her car late at night in India’s capital is being adventurous. In other words, she’s asking to be killed. Women shouldn’t travel at night. Better still, they should probably never leave home at all. After marriage at 18 (unless she thinks it should be earlier), and after getting themselves impregnated at regular intervals, shouldn’t they stay home, bringing up the children and cooking for the husband?
Silly season, as you can see, continues.
Ramadoss bans smoking, and gives the police another handle to beat the citizen with. So a friend of mine, smoking in his car, was flagged down by overzealous policemen and told he couldn’t smoke in his car. To which he produced the rules related to the smoking ban and asked them to show where it said so. They couldn’t. Deprived of some easy money, the cops then checked his driving license, PUC certificate, registration and insurance papers. Disappointed at not finding anything amiss, they reluctantly let him go.
The Rajkot police, meanwhile, ever vigilant and conscientious about their duties as Enforcers-Of-Indian-Feminine-Modesty, have put backless cholis on their Dandiya blacklist. Not for our young girls these indecent, flesh-showing cholis. This is not what Indian culture (arre, more than 5000 years, you are not understanding?) is about. This is Women Being Adventurous. And being adventurous, as we know, can either get you killed, or knocked up. The Sheila would approve.
Take heart, fellow citizens. This only goes to show that underneath our petty regional differences, we are still a nation, bound by stupidity and regressive thinking.
There is also good news. (Surely you didn’t think I was just a purveyor of gloom?) Anyway, the good news is contraceptive sales are up 25% in Ahmedabad. And I’m sure in Mumbai as well. It’s good news because this season’s a shag fest anyway, and at least some of the copulating couples have figured out that safe sex is the way to go.
October 6, 2008 at 8:52 pm
Whew! Glad you got that off your chest?!
Happy Dasara (yep, that’s how we say it down south)anyways. 🙂
October 6, 2008 at 8:59 pm
You should anthologize this blog. 😉
October 6, 2008 at 9:00 pm
Ah man looks like all our “leaders” are inspired by Bush’s bushisms and have voluntarily afflicted themselves with the foot-in-the-mouth disease. And as for the police the less the said is better!
October 6, 2008 at 10:21 pm
These are obviously crappy rules we are ‘bound’ by, which is why rules/bans don’t last long in India!
A good ban that should have been enforced was the one about wearing helmets while driving! The number of deaths have gone up.. Instead, we have a lady in Chennai who is fighting this rule! Her protest is, the driver should have the liberty to wear a helmet!! Someone, give her some brains!!
October 6, 2008 at 11:02 pm
The last paragraph is good news indeed!
October 7, 2008 at 12:14 am
Dunno how to feel except “blah” anymore. All so screwed up, so vaguely and sharply saddening. Bleddy fuckers reserve seats for women in buses to segregate them from men and have men demand that women get off the “gents’ seats”… but when it comes to making the rules, only women with the highly liberal views of Shiela Dixit get in.
What to think?
October 7, 2008 at 3:32 am
OH MY!! I do think NO one should be out at night, esp. here in Houston, Tx. It’s to dangerous.. To many drive by shooting’s. And me being a woman I NEVER go out at night unless I’m with someone or my husband and it VERY VERY Important of why I’m out to began with… til l8er
October 7, 2008 at 7:11 am
Everyone in India is guilty except the politicians. That’s the irony of our country.
October 7, 2008 at 10:44 am
@ QI
I clicked through to read the link on contraceptive sales. I am glad to know that it is condom sales that are rising and not the morning-after pills. That truly is safe sex. Now has anybody done a survey with quickie Indians (no relative of Quirky I know) whether they actually are used?
October 7, 2008 at 11:20 am
Dude Delhi Mister is/was a women? Right.
Anyways as you rightly said I too have no positive hopes on India, when in the capital city such ridiculous comments are being uttered by the people we have elected. Police is not to be blamed most of them are not even educated!!!
India needs a change, from within and these people or we will be soon moaning or own local 91. I still maintain India is more or less a country run by Gandhis for some strange reason. We need a better state or anarchy.
October 7, 2008 at 12:12 pm
The state of women is bad. All these brainless leaders will never let us progress.
October 7, 2008 at 12:20 pm
Yups, interesting. Women in Delhi can never be safe, whatever time of the day it may be!
The police and the men in delhi are all useless creeps.
October 7, 2008 at 2:23 pm
I nearly wrote a post on that – but thought it would be a rant so took deep breaths and refrained. Thank you for doing this post
October 7, 2008 at 3:14 pm
Looks like politicians are just as ridiculous on the other side of the divide
October 7, 2008 at 3:28 pm
@Smokescreen – Whew! Yes. Thanks and to you too. 🙂
@LM – I probably will, someday. When I’m old and grey.
@Che – The man goes, but his Bushisms live on.
@Aparna – what’s the point in giving her brains? She seems determined to spill them all over the pavement anyway.
Ok, I know that was distasteful!
@Kartikey – yes it is…..hopefully the number of abortions should also decrease.
@Suki – Not sure I can think anymore. Kinda numb. Very weary. 😦
@Wavemaker2 – don’t worry, you’re not alone. We’re getting there.
@Liju – The irony is fast turning into tragedy.
@Shefaly – while this link doesn’t give separate growth rates for condoms and other contraceptives (the 25% figure is for contraceptives as a category), I did come across an article recently about the rapidly increasing indiscriminate usage of the morning-after pill in Mumbai…a number of gynaecs were very concerned.
@Chirax – our elected reps specialise in making such statements.
@Angel – welcome to my blog and thanks for commenting. I agree.
@Preeti – welcome to my blog and thanks for the comment. You’re right.
@Phoenixritu – you’re welcome!
@Tazeen – very true. 🙂
October 7, 2008 at 4:01 pm
QI:
What can I say apart from “No sex education please, we are Indians.” 🙂 This is bound to happen if we do not clarify that prevention is not the same as hurried clean-up afterwards. Besides sheath-based protection could also prevent the spread of STDs. Oh STDs, now why isn’t any politician talking about that? And AIDS?
October 7, 2008 at 4:27 pm
I hate all politicians.
WHen I had read that statement from Ms Dixit I was like WTH. She says why is a girl travelling alone so late night that too in a city which is not considered safe for females. All I wanna ask her is “Isn’t saftey also her repsonsibilty? Why is a city being termed as unsafe? Because our govt can’t keep it safe….”
All i can add on is I wish polticians come to sense and tackle real issues 😦
October 7, 2008 at 10:19 pm
Talking of sex and contraceptives, have you seen this?
Here’s a conspiracy theory that just occurred to my sleep-deprived mind. Maybe the government really does not want people to know or practice safe sex. Chopping off safe sex dialogues from movies and buying off condoms from the market (to create artificial shortage) are but two ways to implement this goal. This is why contraceptive sale are up 25% in Ahmedabad. It’s the censor board hoarding those toys, not sensible shaggers!
October 8, 2008 at 10:58 am
Kickass post!
October 8, 2008 at 11:07 am
Gosh I am fuming. The Police have no business to worry about the girls, their backs and their clothing.
They should be taken to court for interfering with our personal choices.
About Cigarette ban, I should have thought of this, this always happens…our police should have no business to …And Sheila Dixit needs to get out of her house without her security in a sari to learn how safe women in Delhi are. These guys are so stupid. Hypocrites and FOOLS.
October 8, 2008 at 3:39 pm
I still think that we should ban condoms too, this is not what Indian culture is, nope, no way.
June 10, 2010 at 1:01 pm
Hey buddy , dont u have sex ??. If yes use a condom or you could end up dying early !
October 8, 2008 at 4:16 pm
I’m disapointed with Mrs. Dixit. Thought her to be a bit sensible.
About the public smoking ban though, I do broadly support Ramamdoss. Note that he hasn’t banned smoking per se; its only banned in public places which I feel is very fair.
Why should anyone suffer from second-hand smoke in a bar because I want to smoke? You are more than free to dmamage your own lungs but not someone elses.
I agree with your point though that the law can be abused by our venal and corrupt police force.
October 8, 2008 at 9:26 pm
Funny that you mention it. The UK has actually banned smoking while driving now. Good thing they cannot penalise driving behaviour history, or they would probably permanently ban me from driving for zipping through Chandigarh traffic on a scooter while sending SMS…. (OK not my brightest moment! But at least I was wearing a helmet!)
Oh and yes I am sure Mrs. Dixit would strongly disapprove as well. A woman driving a two-wheeler, especially during monsoon season is being too adventurous as well. Except that this time it’s a woman saying it, I am not surprised by such statements. If you get raped or killed, as a woman you don’t stand a chance anyway. The cops wouldn’t take notice for sure! Men are simply slaves to their hormones, the girl must’ve done SOMETHING wrong!
October 8, 2008 at 11:28 pm
Looks like smashing politicians , police , state of affair is favorite past time of India 🙂
October 9, 2008 at 11:03 am
Those policemen are stupid…
They forgot an important part of the law: the car was located in a public area!
They should fine your outlaw friend for a so disgraceful behavior…
🙂
http://www.fvarga.wordpress.com
October 10, 2008 at 6:49 am
This was an eye-opening post.
I admit I don’t know much about being an Indian woman in India, but I guessed safety was always going to be a major concern. I don’t understand the way things work in India… instead of increasing safety for women in public places they tell women to stay indoors and not come outside after dark. Wtf? That doesn’t solve the problem.
As for the casual sex, it’s good to hear that contraception is used. I also hope people are using good judgement rather than just good contraception when they decide to have some bodily fun. 🙂
October 10, 2008 at 4:05 pm
@Shefaly – you expect something sensible from our politicians? Tsk, tsk. Thought you had more sense than that. 😉
@Smita – keep dreaming! 🙂
@Abhishek – even in stupidity they’re inconsistent. TV runs the condom ads all the time; radio and TV propagate the ‘condom, condom’ ringtone frequently, but this bunch of idiots doesn’t want the word condom used. Wankers!
@Prakhar – welcome to my blog and thanks!
@Indianhomemaker – my thoughts exactly. 🙂
@Anshul – very true! We didn’t to be 1 billion strong because of contraception, did we? Yeh hamari sanskriti meh nahin hain!
@Hades – oh, I agree with you….I’m not a smoker myself….but implementation is an issue.
@Hedonist666 – welcome to my blog. Thanks for commenting. Of course the poor girl did something wrong – she had the temerity to travel alone at night without a male escort. Or she had the temerity to travel at all. Take your pick.
@veresh – welcome to my blog and thanks for commenting. There’s a reason for that – they give us more opportunities than you can think of.
@fvarga – 🙂
@Sindhu – welcome to my blog and thanks for commenting. Unfortunately, things like this tare fairly common in India. As for good judgment – I think going in for contraception is evidence of its existence! 🙂
October 10, 2008 at 5:20 pm
oh well!! the thing that really gets my goat is the assumption still is that woman who gets raped / molested /killed had invited it!! either by going out late or dressing in scanty lothes or purely by virtue of having boobs!! arrgghhh!!
so now we have to carry the printed ruled when new ones get enforced because the guardians of law themselves dunno what excatly it is, the offence?!
ridiculous!
cheers!
October 13, 2008 at 11:09 am
🙂 Ah quirky and enjoyable indeed.
October 14, 2008 at 11:04 am
I have my old press card, which I flash to traffic cops whenever they stop me. Being a journalist came with certain privileges and I didn’t relinquish the card when i left! 😀
I guess “India shining” has a fine print that reads, “Yeah, right!”
😀
October 14, 2008 at 2:35 pm
hi!
that was a good read.
But just wanted to point out a few things. Its not just Shiela who says staying indoors after dark for delhi girls is a better bet, every grandma and mom is saying the same too. Coming from a CM it sounds ridiculous but coming from an aged woman who knows the real situation it just sounds like sane practical advice.
Ramadoss has actually done something good, lets please not ridicule it. The Police will use it to earn a few extra bucks but it will also give non smokers a chance to safeguard their lungs. That surely cant be that wrong?
November 6, 2008 at 9:52 am
If we listen to all our leaders we will lead long healthy lives till we die of sheer boredom. You can check out my take on Ramadoss at http://www.rameshsrivats.net/2008/11/ramadoss-meets-devadoss.html
June 11, 2010 at 12:06 am
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